Written By: Darren Rose
They say a breakup is like a broken mirror; it’s better to leave it broken than hurt yourself trying to fix it. But how can you really tell you’ve reached that point of no return and your relationship is really over? What are the signs that will let you know if you can still work things out or if you’re doomed to a couple of weeks of excruciating solitude and long sleepless nights, watching Tyler Perry movies and sticking your head in a huge bowl of ice-cream?
Here are some signs that should tell you whether it’s time to alter your current Facebook relationship status. You might be well-aware of these things right now, while reading this, but you see, the signs are much clearer when you get to read and complete the sad puzzle all on your own.
Sign 1 – No more hugs for you. Now this isn’t really the most obvious sign that your relationship is on the edge of a cliff and all it needs is a firm push. But it’s definitely a sign that should start the “your relationship is in trouble” meter. He could be going through some hectic times at work, and exhaustion might force him to go to sleep before he can even close his eyes in the evening. So this might be a temporary change you shouldn’t pay too much attention to.
On the other hand, if your man was never really the hugging type, chances are you can ignore this. Nevertheless, if hugs and kisses and other signs of affection such as cuddling while sleeping are no longer on his mind (but they used to be), he definitely has something in store for you. If you know his working routine hasn’t changed one bit lately and the coldness has been clinging to him for a while now, it’s time to lay your cards on the table. Be on the look for any obvious or more subtle changes in his behavior and don’t be afraid to confront him. Things need to be really clear on all terms in every healthy relationship, and his refusal to discuss these matters with you should definitely get you thinking a lot. Think of his refusal as an additional sign that tells you you’re heading the wrong way.
Sign 2 – No more “I love you’s”. Most couples choose to express their affection towards each other by saying “I love you” as often as they can, maybe even once a day. If you are part of one of these couples and you no longer hear those three magical words, it might be time to sit down and have a serious discussion with your partner. It’s true a lot of men can continue to tell you they love you while sleeping with their secretaries, but if you truly know your partner, you need to look him straight in his eyes and gauge if he’s lying or if he’s being honest. Again, confronting him in a non-aggressive way can help clear things up a lot, so don’t be afraid to use your communication skills, pay close attention to what he has to say and see if you can work things out.
Sign 3 – He doesn’t want to sleep with you anymore. This goes hand in hand with the previous signs, even though most men, by the end of a relationship tend to continue to sleep with their partners, but not hug them or tell them they love them anymore. No man can truly refuse a hot night between the sheets; so you can put on your sexiest lingerie and see how that works out for you. If he doesn’t move an inch aside from his pillow, things should be starting to get really clear by now. If this is a one-time thing, you shouldn’t worry about it. If he refuses to make love to you for a really long time and he also refuses to discuss his reasons with you, your relationship has definitely hit rock bottom.
Sign 4 – “Nothing hurts more than realizing he meant everything to you, but you meant nothing to him.” This is another clever saying that should really help you understand your relationship is truly over. If you’re fighting all the time or more than usual and he calls you out of your name, or even worse he tries to hurt you physically, you’re definitely on the verge of becoming single again – thumbs up for you though – this relationship was probably a total waste of time since the very beginning anyway. No man should do these awful things to a woman, and if he does, he is certainly not in love with her anymore.
Sign 5 – “The number you are trying to call is not reachable.” And so is what’s left of your relationship. When he stops answering your calls, without any decent explanation, you should start packing your bags and hit the road. This is a very obvious sign he doesn’t want to have anything to do with you anymore, especially if he’s already shown several of the signs previously discussed.
Sign 6 – No more holidays for you. If going on vacations was your thing, but neither of you are showing any interest anymore, something’s clearly wrong with this picture. If special occasions such as birthdays or anniversaries don’t ring a bell for either of you, or at least to him, you’re both trying to avoid each other and you probably don’t want to share any more special moments together, but you’re too afraid to face it.
Sign 7 – no future plans for you. If you or your partner never talk about your future plans together or you do, but they never involve each other, it’s time to have a serious conversation. Your relationship is in real danger, especially if you’ve been dating for more than a year.
You see, there are a lot of obvious and more subtle signs you or your partner might be showing, and they all eventually lead to an inevitable breakup. If you notice all or most of these signs when it comes to your relationship – whether they come from you or the other side of the bed – try to talk about whatever it is that’s bothering you. If you can’t at least talk about it then you better believe that it’s all downhill from here.