Why Do Men Cheat? (The Top Reasons Men Cheat On Their Spouses)

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Some people claim that men cheat more than women do. Others feel things are exactly the opposite. This gender battle has raged for years and it doesn’t seem to be reaching any sort of end anytime soon. But one thing is for sure: men always have a so called “reasonable” explanation for cheating on their wives or girlfriends. So why do men cheat? Why do they break the chains of trust and honesty? We wanted to dig deeper into this subject, so we went out and surveyed 100 men, here are the top excuses our survey revealed.

“You look different”

Reason #1: “You’ve changed”. Some men notice even the slightest change in their partners’ behavior and appearance so they tend to go out and look for the “old you” in other women. If you have let yourself go, stopped wearing make-up and getting your hair done just because you’re in a long-term relationship, or if you began wearing baggy clothes around the house, instead of your usual sexy outfits, some men will suddenly lose interest in you. I’m not justifying a guy that cheats on you because of this, (I would suggest that he has a open and honest conversation with you about it) But just because you are involved in a steady relationship does not mean you need to be less of an appealing woman.

“Where the hell is the milk!!!”

Reason #2: “You’re always nagging me!” Nagging people are difficult to cope with, but when you play the part of the constantly nagging girlfriend, telling your man to do this and that, go here and there, dress a certain way and use a certain cologne, he might feel the need to escape all that and feel free and normal again. After all, you are his partner not his mother or high school teacher. Right?

Reason #3: “She was to beautiful to resist”. This is one of the top answers the men we interviewed gave us for cheating. A significant portion of our interviewees said that they have cheated because they couldn’t resist another woman’s beauty.

Reason #4: “You just don’t get me!” Men like to play this card quite a lot when they need to explain their cheating and deceiving behavior. Blaming it all on the girlfriend or wife and running into the arms of someone else rather than trying to fix things happens quite often.

Reason #5: “I felt the need to experiment” Men who have been involved in a long-term relationship or men who are quite young claim they felt the need to see what else is out there and if “they still got it”.

“I can’t help it, I’m a natural born playa.”

Reason #6: “It’s in my DNA”. You might have heard this explanation before. Some men claim to have infidelity engrained in their DNA, and they have a natural need to be with more than one woman.

Reason #7: “You stopped making love to me!” This is another explanation they consider pretty firm ground for cheating on their partners. The moment their partners start “inventing” or creating excuses why they do not want to have sex night after night, it is a big enough excuse for them to go find it somewhere else. Once again we would suggest that they sit down and have an open and honest conversation with their partners instead of cheating.

Reason #8: “Because I wanted to get even” If you have cheated on your man sometime in the past, having him cheat on you should not truly come as a shocker to you. Some men are constantly looking for ways to get even, and what “better” way could they come up with than doing to you what you did to them? A large portion of our survey takers gave this excuse as the reason for cheating on a past partner.

Reason #9: “The Internet made me do it!” With so many websites that are practically screaming “hey sign up and have a affair!” men claim they find it more and more difficult to stay faithful. Also, with so many escort services that can be accessed online and so many chat rooms that are filled with lovely young women looking for new dating partners, there is no wonder so many men choose to act dishonest. Of course cheating can also be regarded as a non-sexual type of activity, and the Internet provides the perfect environment for such affairs also.

“She meant nothing to me, honestly…”

Reason #10: “It was just sex, it meant nothing!” Not truly an explanation worth considering, but a lot of men use it and they feel like their wrong is right again simply because they did not have any feelings for the person they cheated with. Men always like to play their animal attraction card whenever they get caught cheating and they like to associate their actions with nothing more than hormonal needs they are incapable of taming.

This is the top 10 excuses the men we interviewed gave and we are sure if your boyfriend or husband cheats you are prone to hear one of these excuses – because, let’s face it, rarely will a guy come clean out of the blue, just for the sake of not hiding things from you. If you ever catch your spouse cheating and you start hearing these excuses, I suggest you think really hard about what to do next, forgive and forget or leave and never look back?

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