6 Signs He’s Not That Into You

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“It’s a hard knock life for us/ It’s a hard knock life for us…” And the statistics back it up.

Studies have shown that there are now more single women than single men in the dating pool.

There are literally lines of 3 or 4 women sitting in front of a man hoping and praying that he’s the one.
Now just how frustrated does that make you feel?

Besides the fact that you’re jumping through hoops to land the perfect man, the love of your life, the keeper of your heart, you have to face hectic competition too?!

Needless to say, what a fight you have to deal with up until the point that you actually do manage to find a guy that’s really worth your full attention. So why should you be the one who’s left at the pity of some guy who’s just testing the market for fresh merchandise?

Before you go jumping from heartbreak to heartbreak let me tell you about a few clues you need to be on the look out for when engaging in a new relationship.

The truth is, most men won’t be that into you, and most relationships will eventually fail for one reason or another.

I mean think about it, you can’t have seven soul mates, can you?

So don’t drown yourself in sorrow because some guy you were head over heels in love with turns out to be just not the one, but rather try to foresee this event and maybe try to nip it in the bud for a change.

Here are a few signs that you shouldn’t get your heart to wrapped up in your current relationship.

These are the signs he’s not that into you…

6 Signs He's Not That Into You

“Umm can I get a little attention?!?!?!”

Sign 1: “Hey, over here!” 

If you’re in a relationship with a guy that doesn’t pay you any attention when you’re in public and treats you like one of his buddies, maybe it’s time to start considering him just a friend as well.

Of course, it all depends on the way he acts when you’re alone, but a guy who rarely talks to a woman when in public, particularly to a woman whom he is in a relationship with…well…let’s just this isn’t a “match made in heaven.”

He might like you, but he’s probably not that into you.

6 Signs He's Not That Into You

Yawnnnnn…….. Boringgggg……..

Sign 2: I’m speechless.  

If a guy rarely finds anything interesting or enjoyable to talk to you about, or never bothers to pay any attention to your stories, he’s probably not planning to have much to do with you in the future.

A healthy relationship sits on a stack of trust and communication, not on a pile of non-communication and avoidance.

Yes, it might be true what they say, ignorance is bliss, but let’s not get in over our heads, shall we?

A man is allowed to have his own headaches, frustrations and he is also allowed to be really exhausted from work. So, from time to time, he might find it impossible to listen to how your day went or hold a lengthy conversation.

However, when this happens all the time, he’s showing signs of early retreat, no doubt about it. He might not be the most open guy alive, but he has to show he cares about you, your feelings, and what’s going on in your life.

Tired of being the one doing the chasing? Make sure you read our articleMake Him Chase You Instead. Here’s How…

6 Signs He's Not That Into You

Going to the club again?!?!?!

Sign 3: “I’m gonna have to say NO to that, sorry, I already made plans for the weekend.” 

If a guy you really like rejects your every effort to go away someplace for a romantic weekend, just the two of you, you can bet he’s on the verge of telling you that he needs “some space.”

No sane guy would ever turn down such a steamy offer unless he has a darn good reason to do it. Confront him and ask for an explanation. If his answer seems reckless or untrue, he’s sending you the signals and you shouldn’t ignore them.

He’s just not that into you.

6 Signs He's Not That Into You

“Huh?!?! I’m confused?!?! You don’t want sex?!?!”

Sign 4: No sex, please. 

Again, no normal guy would turn down an intimate night with his lady unless, of course, he has a physical issue that prevents him from engaging in intercourse. Or he might be really exhausted and not able to get his ship to sail if you catch my drift.

It’s normal for these things to happen every once in a while to any couple. But when a guy you really like constantly shows you the door whenever you suggest you’re down for some freaky action, well, he’s definitely not as interested in you as you thought he was.

This is one of the clearest signs he’s not that into you.

6 Signs He's Not That Into You

“I don’t want you hanging out with them b****** anymore!!!!!”

Sign 5: He hates all of your friends.

And he’s not afraid to say or show it every time he’s given an opportunity. Moreover, he even humiliates you in front of them or makes inappropriate jokes about you whenever he is around them. It’s like he’s intentionally trying to get on your nerves and pick fights with you.

If this sounds like your relationship it’s time for you to put some serious thought into your relationship, is it really solid? Because, if you ask me, I think he’s already packing his stuff and waiting for you to make the first move.

Sign 6: He’s not willing to share anything with you.

Not even a bite of his food… When a guy completely forbids you to borrow a book or any of his belongings, or when he fights about the toothbrush you accidentally left at his apartment, it’s pretty obvious he’s not going to do any other type of sharing either.

A guy who doesn’t want to share his place with you or even the smallest items is either 1. Inconsiderate 2. A really selfish guy or 3. He’s trying to make you see the bigger picture… He’s just not that into you.


These are the main signs that should help you get a clearer view of your relationship. Don’t be mad or upset if the guy you’ve been dating isn’t as into you as you thought he was, it happens, and it’s probably for the best.

There’s plenty of fish in the sea.

Like Aaliyah said, God bless her soul, “If at first you don’t succeed, dust yourself off and try again!”

Are there any obvious signs that I missed? What signs would you add to this list? Let me know in the comments below.

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