Why is it that when it comes to love and life in general, we tend to believe our worst reviews?
We need to admit it out loud; many of us single ladies live with the fear of being alone for the rest of our lives, especially if the relationships we once had went down the drain and never came back without any plausible explanation.
These unresolved romantic issues can lead to a lot of frustration and mixed feelings, so by the time we do manage to come across a new guy we like we act like 4th graders.
Our cheeks are in flames, we tremble like grass in the wind, and get nervous every time we see him.
Well, just like the rest of us you have to learn how to cope with all the anxiousness and start living your life.
You might be shy, you might be nervous, you might be too afraid to get burnt again, but you can’t just give up.
Here are some tips that will make you more comfortable and give you the confidence you need to let the guy you’re interested in know how you really feel.
Tip 1: Hang out as friends.
This is one of the best shy girl flirting tips there is.
If you’re a shy woman it’s best to start small and allow yourself to warm up to being in his presence.
Ask him out for coffee, or to see a movie that’s being raved about on social media.
If he is a guy that usually hangs out in your typical friends group this should be easy.
I suggest that you ask him out alone, just the two of you. But being a shy girl, I know that you might find that to be a bit nerve racking.
An alternative is to invite the whole crew or a few co-workers to go with you as a group outing. Just make sure you pose as an organizer and have him invite a couple of people too.
Once you are on the outing that’s when you’ll make your intentions a little more known.
Sit by him at the movie, share snacks, subtly make him aware that your attention is on him and he’s the person you really want to spend time with.
Act natural, but peek at him whenever he’s not looking to try to gauge his reactions during the scenes of the movie and try to insert some witty or funny lines.
A guy always appreciates a girl who shares his thoughts or tastes in humor.
Of course, it doesn’t have to be a movie, you can hang out just about anywhere as friends with the rest of your usual acquaintances.
Go out for drinks and make sure he’s coming; engage in small talk with your friends, but make sure you dedicate most of your time to him.
Let him see you want to have a conversation with him more than anyone else, but don’t act desperate. Keep your cool, try to be as smart and funny as you can and let things progress naturally.
A relaxed atmosphere and a few laughs can help both of you lighten up. Things will definitely get easier from then on.
Tip 2: It might be hard but… Be bold.
This doesn’t mean you have to jump his bones or try to kiss him when he’s not looking (although most guys might find that incredibly intriguing lol.)
The question is, does a shy woman really need to do something extraordinary just to make a guy understand that she likes him?
So here’s a wild thought: Why don’t you have some flowers sent to him, or maybe a nice bottle of wine along with his favorite food?
Buy him a card and make sure you write your cell phone number in it. He’s going to have to eventually man up and give you a “thank you” call.
Everybody likes to be taken by surprise every now and then. And nothing will surprise a man like an unexpected gift from a female acquaintance.
Tip 3: Touch him accidentally.
Men tend to perceive the most innocent touch as a sign of something more.
Use that to your advantage.
Whether it’s affection, love, curiosity or flirting. Whenever you touch a guy’s arm or leg when you’re telling him something funny, entertaining, or when you’re trying to make a point, he’s definitely going to catch your signals.
You wouldn’t touch him unless you’d liked him. That’s how he will perceive it.
So make sure you adjust his collar or give him a slight hug him whenever you see him.
These gestures express some degree of affection, and the more you make them, the faster he will come to realize that you’re interested in him.
Tip 4: Learn about his hobbies and join him.
If you discover, you share some common interests, good for you.
You won’t find it too hard to ask him to join you at an art gallery or karaoke bar.
However, if you don’t know of any hobbies you share it’s time to do a little investigation of your target and the things he likes.
Check out his Facebook page and try to find out a few of the hobbies he’s interested in.
From there it’s time to learn a little more about the hobby if you have no previous experience with it.
If you learn he’s really into bowling or fishing, maybe try to do a little online reading and learn a couple of things about these sports and mention the things you’ve learned the next time you talk to him.
Let him know that you are beginning to take an interest in the hobby he engages in, and that maybe you could join forces one day and do it together so you can get a better understanding of it.
A guy is definitely going to appreciate that you are taking a liking to his interest.
He’s also going to be fully aware that you are flirting with him.
Tip 5: Who’s that lady in red?
A little mystery can never do you any harm; so if you don’t actually know the guy you like and you’ve just seen him around town or at a local hangout a few times, it’s time to put on your best dress, do you makeup, be confident, and introduce yourself next time you see him.
Side Note: The title of tip 5 is “Who’s that lady in red” for a reason.
The color red is the most seductive color there is and in numerous studies has been shown to significantly enhance men’s attraction to women on a subconscious level.
Use that knowledge to your advantage.
A red dress and red heels will surely catch his eye from anywhere in the room.
Tip 6: Take pictures together and comment how cute he is in them.
If you and your crush often hang out as a part of a group of friends, make sure you get him to pose for a few pictures every now and then and don’t hesitate to take a few selfies with him.
When you take a selfie with him be sure to get close and innocently touch his arm or cheek.
Ask him if it’s okay if you post the picture on Instagram or Facebook so everyone can see “How cute he looks in them.”
That small gesture and comment should be enough to get him to start making some moves on you.
As subtle and as innocent as it sounds, he’s going to want to test the waters to see if you’re interested in him or if he’s imagining things.
Make sure you try at least a couple of the shy girl flirting tips listed above.
I can guarantee you they will work like a charm.
Just stay relaxed and natural while you put them into practice. Don’t let excitement, anxiousness, or shyness stop you from getting what you want. 💋