signs that he’s using you for your money

Can I borrow $20.00? (6 signs that he’s using you for your money)

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I have been waiting to write this article for a long time. I have seen a lot of women taken advantage of by losers who wanted nothing more but to drive their cars, have a place to stay, and use them for their money, and I’m sad to say it but growing up I seen these things happen to my very own mother.

As a child, it hurt me so bad to watch my mother be treated so horribly by my stepfather, and I’m hoping this article can help someone escape this type of destructive relationship.

If you’re reading this article I encourage you to pass it along to your friends on Facebook and Twitter, to help me get this message out to the women that really need it.

So without further ado, here’s 6 signs that a guy is just dating you for your money, it might be hard, but if you see these signs ladies, there’s no if’s, and’s or but’s about it, it’s time to move on.

signs he's using you for your money

“Living off of you is so fun”

Sign 1: He’s broke and satisfied.

The situation is pretty dramatic, he doesn’t seem to be able to find a decent job no matter how hard he says he tries, and things are not looking any better for the near future. He might be haunted by incredible misfortune, or he’s simply too lazy to let go of his cozy unemployment and be a man for a change.

Of course, his situation could be a, “I don’t have a lot of money to spend on dates right now, so you might have to pay the check every once in a while” type of scenario. This shouldn’t be that big a deal, but if you see he’s not actually feeling embarrassed or a little shy about you having to pay the bills or the checks when you’re going out, then this guy is probably OK with the way things are working out for him.

signs that he’s using you for your money

“Can I borrow $20.00? Better yet let’s make it $50.00

Sign 2: “Can I borrow $20.00 baby???”

He likes you, sure, but he likes your money more. As a matter of fact, he depends on your money, and he isn’t afraid to let you know. He’s constantly asking you to borrow money, but you both know you’ll never get it back – whether you don’t want to ask him to pay back his loans, or he’s too full of himself to even contemplate the idea of giving you back your hard earned money, the end result is always the same you loan him money and he never pays it back.

Sign 3: Let’s go shopping honey! You’re paying!

Well, he might not be that dramatic or selfish-sounding, but he’s definitely planning on acting this way. If your guy is constantly telling you about the expensive Gucci outfit he wants so badly, or if he encourages or practically begs you to go shopping with him and then accidentally leaves his wallet at home when it’s time to pay the bill, something’s definitely wrong with this picture.

Sign 4: Dating him resembles an X-Files episode.

He’s constantly being robbed, he always forgets his wallet in a cab, or his paychecks never arrive on time, now something’s definitely wrong with this picture, and this particular guy. If he always has something to hide or if things are just never clear when you’re with him, it’s a good idea to do some digging to try to learn about his debts and financial situation, you might be in for a big surprise.

signs that he’s using you for your money

“Im gon be right back baby”

Sign 5: “Can I borrow your car?” 

If every time he comes around he’s asking to borrow your car, and you don’t see him until it’s nighttime and he needs somewhere to sleep, sorry ladies but this guy is just using you and it’s time to move on.

Sign 6: “Is it payday already???” 

If he seems to spend a lot more time with you when it’s almost your payday, or he decides he wants to spend more time with you during income tax season, I can guarantee you this guy is after your money, and once again, it’s time to move on.


It’s never easy to discover these things; well, it actually is, but it’s hard at an emotional level. The disappointment you will possibly experience will leave a sour taste in your mouth for a long time, but don’t give up; it’s only a matter of time before you meet a decent guy who deserves your time and attention. Everything happens for a reason, and every romantic experience that fails should leave you more powerful and better prepared to face life and its nasty traps, stay strong ladies.

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