Some say a breakup is like a broken mirror; it’s better to leave it broken than hurt yourself trying to fix it.
But how can you really tell you’ve reached that point of no return?
What are the signs that it’s really over?
What are the clear indicators that will let you know if you can still work things out or if you’re doomed to a couple of weeks of heartbreak?
Here are a few clues that you would have noticed leading up to the breakup that should tell you whether or not it’s time to alter your current Facebook relationship status.
You might be well aware of these things before even reading this. But for many the signs are much clearer when they get to read them and complete the puzzle on their own.
So, here are 7 signs that it’s really over.
Sign 1 – No more hugs for you.
We are putting this sign first because it says a lot about his mindset about the relationship before the breakup. Which is what we want to explore in this article, because it is a highly significant indicator for if your relationship is really over or not.
You see, if your breakup didn’t happen suddenly but in a more gradual manner where affection was withdrawn, and it felt like you two were growing apart this is an indicator that the relationship is indeed really over and there’s nothing to salvage because his core feelings about you and the relationship have changed.
The withdrawal of physical affection is one of the most obvious signs that your relationship is on the edge of a cliff and all it needs is a firm push.
In fact, it is the earliest warning sign that your relationship is coming to an end and it’s too early for either of you to realize it yet.
If you notice this, you should immediately start taking the necessary steps to get the relationship back on track, because if it ends on such terms, it’s likely over forever.
Sign 2 – No more “I love you’s.”
This is another early warning sign that if you notice before a breakup is a pretty firm indicator that the relationship is really over.
Most couples choose to express their affection towards each other by saying “I love you” as often as they can, maybe even a few times a day.
If you are part of one of these couples and you no longer hear those three magical words, it might be time to sit down and have a serious discussion with your partner.
It’s true a lot of men can continue to tell you they love you while having affairs or not really being in love for that matter.
But if you truly know your partner then you know his behavior. If he suddenly stops telling you he loves you leading up to a breakup then, the relationship is likely really over.
I really hate to be so blunt, but he’s likely not in love with you anymore, and there’s probably nothing you can do about it.
Sign 3 – He doesn’t want to sleep with you anymore.
This goes hand in hand with the previous symptoms, even though most men even if they are unhappy with their relationship will continue to sleep with their partners, but not tell them they love them or show them any other physical affection.
Some men will completely withdraw from sex and lose all physical attraction they once had for their partners.
This is one of the most obvious signs that it’s really over.
If he refused or avoided making love before the breakup, he likely has no interest in reconciling the relationship.
Sign 4 – “Nothing hurts more than realizing he meant everything to you, but you meant nothing to him.”
This is a clever saying that should help you see the light if your relationship is truly over.
If before the breakup you were fighting all the time and he called you out of your name, or even worse, he got violent with you this is a very clear indicator that your relationship is really over… Or at least it should be.
Try not to be too heartbroken about the breakup. No man should treat a woman this way, and if he does, he is certainly not in love with her anymore and probably never was.
You deserve respect, love, and true happiness. This isn’t it.
It’s clearly time to leave this relationship in your rearview.
Sign 5 – No more holidays for you.
If going on vacations or spending holidays together was your thing, but all of a sudden he wanted to spend holidays separate or seemed like he didn’t want you there, this says a lot about the state of your relationship before you broke up.
Sorry, but if you noticed this leading up to your breakup it’s very likely over, and there’s no turning back.
Sign 6 – No future plans for you.
If you look back and notice that your partner stopped including you in their future plans in the months or weeks leading to the breakup this is another one of the tell-tell signs that their perspective of you and the value of the relationship has changed.
This is one of the more subtle signs that it’s really over on a subconscious level in your partner’s mind before the actual breakup.
When a partner begins to exclude you from their future plans they have internally removed you from their future. Likely, without even noticing it yet.
Sign 7 – “The number you are trying to call is not reachable.”
This is the most obvious sign that it’s really over.
If after you two split up he stops answering your calls or text, or just outright changes his phone number it’s undoubtedly over forever, and he’s being upfront about it.
There’s really no clearer way that he could tell you that he doesn’t want to have anything to do with you unless he actually called you and told you.
Once again, I hate to be so blunt but, he has moved on and is probably already dating someone new.
I know it hurts. Give yourself time to heal then move on as he has.
There are a lot of obvious and more subtle signs your partner may have shown leading up to your inevitable breakup that says that there is no hope of fixing your broken relationship.
If you noticed 3 or 4 of these signs in your relationship prior to the split, it’s likely really over.
As I said at the beginning of this article. These signs indicate a deeper rift.
This is more than just a spat or your partner being angry, these signs show that they lost value for the relationship before the breakup. Which makes it nearly impossible to repair.
I’m sorry, but these are the signs that it’s really over.
If you noticed them, it’s best that you move on and accept that the relationship has come to an end.
If that’s the case, you definitely want to begin the journey of recovering from your breakup by starting here.