Question: We’ve been dating for awhile and I just found out he has a small penis!!!

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Hi Blackloveadvice family! Congratulations on the books! I love them! My name is Katrina and I have a question for you guys. I have been dating this guy for 6 months. He’s tall, sexy body, intelligent, everything about him is perfect all except one thing…. Let me explain….

I have a rule for myself and new guys that I meet. I refuse to be intimate with them for a least 3 months after we begin dating. And I stand firm, no sexual contact whatsoever until the 3 month period ends. No touching, no caressing, nothing at all until the waiting period ends. Well about 2 weeks ago the 3 month period ended for me and my current boyfriend and I couldn’t wait, his body has been driving me crazy ever since the moment I laid my eyes on him!

We started the night out with dinner at one of my favorite restaurants, then we headed back to my place. Long story short we ended up in my room kissing. Everything was going great until we started undressing…. He started off by removing his shirt and his body was sexy as usual, caramel skin, chiseled abs mmm mmm mmm! Next, he removed his jeans and boxers….. OMG I was disappointed to say the least! This tall, sexy, muscular man was standing there in front of me with a penis that has to be no more than 5 inches long!

I couldn’t believe what I was seeing, nothing indicated that he had a small penis. No small hands, no small feet, he’s in great shape etc. Well anyway, we ended up having sex and I faked it the whole time. I moaned, said his name, the whole 9 yards but in reality I felt absolutely no pleasure, it kept slipping out from being so small, it was a total waste of my time. The next day I spent a lot of time thinking about this, I just don’t know if I can be with a guy that doesn’t satisfy me sexually, but remember we have been dating for 3 months and I have really started to like this guy.

What should I do??? Should I break up with him because he has a small penis??? This has been a very hard decision for me, please help!

Answered By: Naomi Epps

Hi Katrina, let me start out by saying I feel ya pain girl, the same thing happened to me a few years ago! Now I must say if he doesn’t satisfy you sexually and a fulfilling sex life is high on your list of what matters in a relationship then you are left with almost no choice but to end the relationship. You don’t want to end up cheating on him and having all the silly arguments that come with a lackluster sex life. When this situation happened to me I broke up with him 2 days later, I understood the problems a lack of sexual satisfaction would cause in the future and I understood it was best for me to just move on. It was hard to do, but it was necessary. If having a good sex life means a lot to you then I suggest you do the same. One last bit of advice, I think you should probably alter the way you approach the 3 month rule so this doesn’t happen to you again. Instead of not allowing any type of physical contact, I think it would be best if you allow kissing and touching, that way you can feel around down there and find out what he’s working with before you get to attached. I hope this helped and I wish you the best of luck.

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