How to get your ex back? That’s a difficult question to answer.
Unfortunately, most of us have to ask ourselves that question at one point or another in our lives.
The truth is that getting your ex back can become a tough battle that you might never win…
However, with a little know how you can tip the odds in your favor.
Depending on how long you’ve been broken up you might have to fight for your exes attention against new suitors that are hovering over your old relationship like vultures circling wounded prey.
That’s on top of the task of securing your exes forgiveness and rebuilding the bond you once had.
With the awareness of those two facts, it’s clear that you’re going to have to unleash some secret weapons to regain the attention of the person who once loved you sincerely.
Let’s start with this one…
Tip #1: Gradually start to talk to him again.
Text, email, or inbox him on social media telling him that you recently went to one of his favorite hangouts or went and seen one of his favorite musicians in concert. If you know an important event came up in his life, you should also inquire about that as well.
As hard as it may be, play it cool. No talk of the breakup. No talk about how much you miss him. You just want to open the lines of communication. That’s it.
This is the first step to getting your ex back.
If you can’t open the lines of communication, the relationship is likely really over.
If your ex is the one who broke up with you, they probably feel like they had some good reasons to do it.
The first step in getting your ex back is identifying what caused the breakup.
If cheating and lying are out of the question, getting your ex back should be fairly straightforward.
In fact, in most situations where cheating isn’t the reason for the breakup, the root cause is that your ex feels like “you’ve changed.”
Whether that’s being more argumentative than usual, not spending enough time together, or not giving him the same amount of attention you used to, try to get back to being your old self again.
Let your ex know that you realize you’ve been different, what’s caused the changes, and that you are going to make efforts to be your old self again.
In many situations, this is enough to get your ex running back into your arms.
However, you have to make sure you follow through on these promises or history will likely repeat itself.
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Conversation rules the nation.
We all know that words are powerful. They have the power to trigger love, hate, resentment, and forgiveness.
With that being said, it’s imperative that you spend an ample amount of time thinking about what you’re going to say to your ex and what emotions you want to trigger.
Do not beg, do not cry, do not act or sound desperate. Express your need to have one last talk and try to sort things out. Apologize, if you think you have done something wrong or ask him what it is that he feels you did wrong.
Make it clear that you are willing to change and that you value the relationship.
Tip #4: Replicate the good times you had together.
One clear advantage you have in winning your ex back is all the good memories you share.
Your first date, holidays together, vacations, anniversaries. All of these things when relived can reignite a bond that was once broken.
So try inviting him to a movie and wear the cute outfit he bought you for Valentine’s day. Innocently talk about a fun time you had together in the past. Even text him and tell him you just visited the place you had your first date and you were thinking about him.
The goal is to think of a powerful memory that bonded the two of you in the past and try to reenact that memory or remind him of it.
The fact is that finding a new girlfriend and creating a new bond and new memories with her will take time, So knowing all of his secrets, hobbies, turn-ons, and turn-offs is a significant advantage for you.
With that in mind creating a few deja-vu moments will undoubtedly help you climb a little bit closer to his heart.
Tip #5: Use his words to your advantage.
It’s no secret: Birds of the same feather flock together.
When it comes to choosing lovers and friends, people tend to gravitate towards like-minded people. This is long known in the world of psychology and backed by many studies.
Simply put, it’s a standard part of human nature.
So if you know your ex uses a particular word or expression often, make sure you cleverly slip it into your conversations.
To take it a step further mirror his mannerisms, his moods, and interest.
Subconsciously he will begin to feel that he probably messed up breaking up with you because you two are so much alike.
It’s extremely hard to resist the advances of someone we share a lot in common with. At this point, you might not be trying to get back with your ex… Your ex will likely be trying to get back with you…
Tip #6: Keep your first re-encounter fun and light-hearted.
Even though you want to get your ex boyfriend back and that’s what’s on your mind it would be a mistake to immediately become serious and start talking about the breakup or your potential future together during your first re-encounter.
Try to be fun. Tell some jokes and be friendly to break the ice.
Ask him out for a few drinks or a game of pool. Even invite a few friends if you feel like that will lessen the gravity of the moment.
The goal is to let him see that the breakup isn’t going to break you and that you can still be fun to be around.
At some point, the conversation will likely float towards the breakup on its own.
Let things happen naturally.
Dealing with a breakup can be extremely stressful. That stress can lead to weight gain and a general loss of care about our appearance.
If you’ve been in the dumps about your breakup and your looks have taken a hit because if it, it’s time to change that.
Go shopping, buy a few outfits, get your hair done, pull out your makeup.
Make sure you look as beautiful as ever before you see your ex for the first time after the breakup.
As petty as it sounds, you want to show him what he’s missing.
Do you really want your ex back? Is this really the right man and relationship for you? Was the relationship healthy? Did it allow you to grow as a person?
Before you take steps to get your ex back, I highly suggest you ask yourself these questions.
You might discover that your motivations for reconciliation are wrong. That you possibility just want your ex back because you want what you can’t have, you don’t want to see him with someone else, or for some other non-satisfactory reason that will lead to you lingering in a bad relationship for far too long.
To help you answer the above questions and identify if you should really be trying to get your ex back or not I suggest you read the three articles below:
- 8 Undeniable Signs You’re Dating The Wrong Person
- 5 Subtle Signs You’re in an Unhealthy Relationship
- 5 Relationship Problems You Will Face Before You Find The Right Man
If the reasons aren’t right, and the relationship has some serious flaws, you should think twice about using the tips in this article to get him back.
You’ve made it to the end of our 8 simple tips to get your ex back in 30 days or less!
After reading this you no doubt understand how to get your ex back and exactly what it takes to build a better relationship this time around.
Now it’s time to start focusing on the last tip of determining if you really want him back or not, then move forward using the rest of tips.
You should find all of these pieces of advice to be quite useful when it comes to reaching your ex’s heart once again. If all goes well and as planned, you should be able to get him back sooner than expected.
But remember, you do need to sit down and think real hard about the reasons you want to get back together.
If it’s out of a silly ambition, you should just move on. You would only be doing the two of you a lot of harm. If you feel like the right reasons are fueling your motivations, then go get your man back!