7 Signs You Spend Too Much Time Together [Spending too much time together]

7 Signs You Spend Too Much Time Together

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I was recently asked the question “Can spending too much time together ruin your relationship?”

That’s an excellent question with an answer that often shocks people.

Have you ever stopped and thought to yourself that maybe you are spending too much time with your boyfriend and that it might be negatively impacting your relationship?

It might sound crazy, especially if you have just recently entered the relationship, and you constantly feel the need to call, text, or video chat with your boyfriend, let alone see him every time you have a spare moment.

However, spending too much time together can lead to exactly the opposite of what you might be expecting:

Ladies, there’s a good chance your man will become unhappy in the relationship if you keep clinging to him .

And the same goes for the reverse… If your man constantly tells you he can’t get enough of you and always wants to be under you, you might be the one who will eventually want to pull out of this smothering relationship.

So how much is too much time to be spending together as a couple?

Here are 7 clear indicators that you might need to give each other a little space.

7 Signs You Spend Too Much Time Together [Spending too much time together]

“You already told me how that girl kicked you in the balls in elementary school.”

1. You don’t have anything new to talk about.

Spending every free moment you have with your boyfriend means sharing everything, from meals, to TV time, to grocery shopping and doing household chores.

This means you can’t go to him and say “I saw the funniest thing ever when I was out yesterday!” and have something new to share with him, simply because he was there, watching as the same shocking moment, sharing the same laughter.

You also can’t tell him what you had for dinner, or the story about how you tripped over your feet and spilled wine all over the carpet because he was probably there also.

Not having new things to talk about or new thoughts to share can prove to be a huge problem for most couples.

For this reason, it’s imperative that you give yourselves some time apart from one another and accumulate new experiences on your own time.

7 Signs You Spend Too Much Time Together [Spending too much time together]

“Why this fool ain’t called me?”

2. You don’t talk on the phone or text anymore.

If you are spending too much time together, it probably means you have reached a stage when you don’t text, email, or call one another. Even though you might not have realized it yet, it’s the little things such as a funny, cute, or romantic text that can light your day up and make you fall for the person you’re dating even more.

If you no longer communicate in that way, it’s likely a sign that you’re spending too much time together.

3. You hardly go out anymore.

If you are spending every second of your free time with your man, chances are neither of you really feel the need to go out on romantic dates anymore, (especially him.)

I mean think about it… If you already see each other 24/7, why bother putting on that nice dress and heels to go out in the evening and vice versa?


Your man needs to see you dolled up from time to time and you also need to see him dressed in his Sunday’s best every now and then.

That’s the thing about spending too much time together. You get overly comfortable with each other wayyy too early in the relationship.

Quickly what was once a steamy romance can fizzle out to a dull routine in the blink of an eye.

And one thing that will definitely be impacted by this is your level of intimacy.

Which brings me to my next tell-tell sign that you and your man are spending a bit too much time in each other’s presence.

4. You’re not making love that often.

Experiencing a rut in the bedroom and don’t know why? Well, you’re probably spending too much time together.

If you used to have a hard time keeping your hands off of each other, and now you hardly touch anymore, it might be because you have gotten so used to seeing one another every day and you no longer feel the same level of passion you once had when in each other’s presence.

5. You have started to take one another for granted, and it’s leading to arguments.

When a couple spends too much time together, they eventually begin to take each other for granted.

When this happens you begin to get on each other’s nerves over the smallest things, petty arguments begin, major arguments start to occur, and if you aren’t careful, this could lead to the relationship killer known as “The Grass is Greener Syndrome or a breakup.

Of all the signs that you are spending too much time together on this list, this is probably the one that is the most immediately dangerous to the future of your relationship.

7 Signs You Spend Too Much Time Together [Spending too much time together]

“I’m so happy that Negro is gone.”

6. You don’t miss your man.

If you have reached the point in your relationship where you no longer miss your man when he’s gone, or he does not miss you anymore, it might be time to start spending more time apart before it’s too late.

Missing each other will give you both the chance to remember what it is you love most about each other, it will also increase the anticipation of seeing each other, and both of these things will undoubtedly strengthen your relationship.

7. You have the same hobbies.

While most of you might think this is a great thing, I advise you to reconsider.

Men and women tend to have different hobbies and interest. For example, many women enjoy watching shopping and going to the spa.

On the other hand, men tend to like watching sports and going fishing.

If you end up doing the very same thing, only the two of you, every time, it might be another indicator of the need to spend more time apart.

Remember this saying: The traveler always looks good on the road.

Let your man enjoy the hobbies he loves the most by himself as he always has, and you continue to enjoy your hobbies solo in your spare time.

Avoid the mistake of trying to learn to enjoy each other’s hobbies, so you can spend even more time together.

You will only begin to get on each other’s nerves and possibly even lose your individuality in the process.


If you are currently experiencing one or several of these scenarios, it’s time to start really considering spending more time apart.

It doesn’t have to be anything major. Just once or twice a week, take the opportunity to go out with your friends, do the things you love, and let your partner do the same.

The benefits this will bring to your relationship will be amazing.

Give it a try.

For more advice on this subject be sure to check out our article, “5 Ways Time Apart Improves Your Relationship.”

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