Aristotle used to say that love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies. And novelist Honore de Balzac felt that “A woman knows the face of the man she loves as a sailor knows the open sea.”
There are millions of beautiful definitions that have been given for love throughout the centuries.
What the above two descriptions of real love tells us is that it’s identifiable, unconditional, and all consuming.
Still, just because real love is identifiable doesn’t mean it’s EASILY identifiable.
Over the years many experts have given their views of how to identify true love. Some good, some bad, and some not accurate at all.
To remove some of the guesswork for you, I’ve compiled the top 7 signs of real love.
These signs appear numerous times with different wording in hundreds of books, guides, and videos that promise to help people clearly identify love and obtain it.
If you see these things in your relationship, I think it’s pretty safe to say that you’ve finally found a real love that you shouldn’t let go of.
Let’s start the list with this sign that is easily identifiable by the way it makes you feel…
1. You are inexplicably comfortable with one another.
Even though you might not have known one another for a great deal of time, you feel very comfortable whenever you talk or spend time together.
In fact, it feels like you’ve known each other for years even though you probably just met only a few months ago.
When in each other’s presence a warm filling of comfort and familiarity takes over you. You share the same beliefs, life philosophies, professional goals, and values.
You feel like you’ve found your opposite sex twin for lack of a better way to put it.
This is the earliest sign that you might have found real love.
However, don’t go all in just yet. No matter how perfect it feels, this could just be a sign of the honeymoon phase of your relationship which all relationships naturally progress through. So, it will take a few other signs on this list to help you identify if the love is real or not.
2. You wish you could be together all the time.
This is another low-level sign of real love that could simply be an indicator that your relationship is still in the honeymoon phase.
But it’s still worth mentioning.
You hate it when your dates end and you go back to your homes separately. And you both equally sacrifice to get together every chance you get. Plus, you regularly inquire about each other’s work, schedule, and daily routines.
You love how stimulating your conversations are.
Intellectually, spiritually, emotionally you just click. You wish that you could spend every waking moment together (although I strongly advise against it.)
Wanting to spend as much time with a person can definitely be a sign of real love, but it’s best that you proceed with caution on this one.
The following signs are much firmer indicators that you’ve found something real that you shouldn’t let go of.
3. You appreciate and nurture one another.
Love is all about caring for another individual as you care for yourself. Their pain is your pain, their joy is your joy, when they are weak you want to be their strength.
That’s real love.
If you notice high levels of appreciation and nurturing in your relationship, it’s very likely based on a love that is real.
4. You are able to accept his flaws and mistakes, and he accepts yours.
Nobody is perfect. None of us. And when you meet a person that realizes that and still accepts you as you are… Well, that’s probably the most reliable sign of real love that there is.
True love doesn’t keep a scorecard, and it doesn’t seek perfection. It wants something that’s real, flaws and all.
If you accept your man as he is and he accepts and loves you the way that you are I think you’ve both found a love that you should never let go of.
5. You are spontaneous.
True love will make you happy, cheerful, positive, and adventurous.
When it’s real, it will make you experiment and do all types of fun and spontaneous things when you are together.
I’m not sure why, but real love breeds spontaneity.
6. You fight to keep the flame burning.
Even though you might have known each other for a while now, you still don’t want the passion fade.
You refuse to be complacent in your relationship because it’s something you value and don’t want to let go of.
So you are both doing everything in your power to spice things up both romantically and sexually.
You read books, ask for advice, communicate with one another and express your feelings like you never did before with anyone else.
This is a very telling sign that the love is real. Otherwise, neither of you would be nurturing the relationship so carefully.
7. You both give and don’t expect anything in return.
This is a surefire sign that you are experiencing real and unconditional love.
When two people are able to sacrifice and give freely to each other and expect nothing in return, they truly have a deep bond that is likely unbreakable.
As the saying goes: Actions speak louder than words.
Seeing beyond your own immediate needs and being able to naturally nurture each other with care, attention, and affection shows you that the love is real and that you should never let it go.
Is finding real love possible? Yes, of course, it is and no matter how many let downs, setbacks, and mishaps we’ve been through it’s out there.
If you see these signs in your relationship, I think it’s safe to say that you’ve finally found a love that’s real.
Don’t take it for granted. Nurture the relationship, appreciate each other, accomplish goals together.
That’s how you will keep your relationship strong for many years to come. That’s how you will set an example of what real love looks like for the world to see.