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The Top 7 Causes Of Breakups…

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Why do so many seemingly good relationships come to an end?

What are the top causes of breakups and can you avoid them?

Well, the answer to that question depends on how you approach your relationship and if you dedicate adequate time to nurturing your bond.

Before we begin the countdown I want you to remember this: Knowing is half the battle.

If you understand the things that could ruin your relationship you have a much better chance of avoiding them.

With that being said, here are some of top reasons couples breakup.

The top 7 causes of breakupsBreakup Cause #1: Falling in love with someone else.

This is definitely one of the main reasons why two people in a relationship decide to call it quits. Either one or both of them could have fallen in love with someone else, usually someone they have been engaging in a long term affair with…

Which leads me to one of the most common causes of breakups that there is…

Breakup Cause #2: Infidelity.

Cheating has been the cause of more breakups than we can count.

It doesn’t matter who you are, how much money you. Even rich and famous couples aren’t immune.

Just look at Chicago Bulls basketball player Dwayne Wade who got another woman pregnant while dating Gabrielle Union!

However, if we can learn anything from Dwayne Wade and Gabrielle Union who eventually reconciled and got married.

Relationships can recover from infidelity if both partners are willing to put in the work it takes to rebuild the trust within the relationship.

Breakup Cause #3: The love is gone.

This usually happens when one of the people in the relationship starts to show obvious signs of a new demeanor or outlook on life, “You are not the person I fell in love with!” Is the phrase that comes to mind.

Does this sound familiar to you?

People evolve with age and time, and sometimes it causes couples to grow apart.

How can you stop this? The only real remedy is to partake in personal development with the person you’re in a relationship with so you can GROW TOGETHER.

If one partner joins church, the other should join church also. If one enrolls in college, the other should think about continuing their education too.

That’s the only way to ensure that your steps will be aligned in this journey called life.

The Top 7 Causes Of Break Ups...Breakup Cause #4: One partner feels the need to be independent again.

Being in a long term relationship means learning to share your decision making, your life, and your belongings with someone else. This could be overwhelming for a person that craves privacy and independence.

This need for independence often leads to breakups, (fortunately, just by using this simple method people in relationships can nurture their independence and keep their relationship strong at the same time!)

Breakup Cause #5: You become physically incompatible.

With time our interest change, our bodies change, and often what we find sexually desirable changes as well.

When two partners grow to discover they are no longer compatible from a physical point of view a breakup is bound to happen.

Even though it is not the end of the world, for a young couple it can mean the end of a relationship as life behind the bedroom door is more crucial in that stage of life than it is in your later years.

The only way to combat this is to keep your body in shape and don’t disregard your looks just because you’re in a committed relationship. But even then, it’s no guarantee that your partner won’t develop a wondering eye and a desire to “try something new.”

Breakup Cause #6: Nag, nag, nag.

No matter if it is the man or the woman in the relationship doing the nagging, the partner on the opposite end of it will often feel the need to escape the relationship.

No one likes to be nagged, especially not if it’s a frequent occurrence. And even though the partner that is doing the complaining might have a point… Which they usually do… The truth is that such behavior can drive a sane person crazy.

That’s what makes this one of the top causes of breakups.

Not many adults want to relive the parent or childhood teacher nagging them about eating their vegetables and not running in the house.

Remember this: Everybody wants and deserves to be treated like an adult, no matter how much some of their actions might get on your nerves.

Side Note: Studies have shown that frequent nagging by a partner can have serious health implications that can shorten a person’s life. Click here to read more on this study.

Breakup Cause #7: Financial instability.

Not having enough money to pay bills and enjoy at least a few of the finer things in life will lead to some pretty intense arguments at one point or another.

In fact, research has shown that arguments about money is the top predictor of divorces and breakups.

As the saying goes: If he’s broke… And you’re broke… Y’all should break up!

Lmao, not shockingly, most people actually live by that motto.


Most of these common reasons couples breakup can be avoided. Work on your relationship, enjoy each other, strengthen your bond… But also keep these 7 causes of breakups in the back of your mind. For more tips be sure to check out the rest of our site.

Thanks for reading!

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