All relationships need a little pick me up from time to time. Whether you’ve been married for years or just hit your six month mark, things can shift over time. You still love each other, but things may feel a little different now that your honeymoon phase is over, and you’re unsure if you can ever get things back to the way they used to be. No worries, we’ve got a great list of things to help you and your partner connect again. Try some of these exercises to ensure that your relationship stays strong, intimate, and full of joy.
1. Stop the negativity.
You may not notice it, but we often become more straightforward with people once we’ve spent a great deal of time with them. Your significant other is a wonderful example of that. Because you two feel so comfortable around each other, you feel free to say anything and everything, sometimes without thinking. Watch your tone. If you’re having a bad day or your partner is doing something you can’t help but complain about, just breath. Your day to day struggles can seep into your relationship in a negative and destructive way.
2. Be positive.
Focus on the good things in your relationship. When is the last time you complimented him on a job well done? Or eased a frustration with inspiring words? Praise and kind words can go a long way in any relationship. Improve yours by showing your partner that you are proud of him. When someone feels fully supported and loved, their desire to see you happy will soar, and so will your relationship.
3. Be open and honest, always.
A great relationship is built on constant communication. When a couple is open and honest with each other trust grows. Don’t hide things from each other. If there’s an issue in your relationship that needs to be aired out, discuss it. Speak with confidence and a non-confrontational tone and your message will be heard loud and clear. Starting a fight won’t make the situation any better. Use timing and tact to have a calm conversation where both sides can be open and issues can be resolved, leaving room for positive improvements, and a greater bond.
4. Try something new.
If your once fun and flirty relationship seems boring and lacking in enthusiasm, consider trying new things. Take a road trip together to somewhere you’ve never been before or go to a new restaurant that just opened in your city. The possibilities for adventure are endless. Remind each other of what fun you had when you first met by being that same couple again. The times may have changed, but you haven’t.
5. Schedule a date night.
Whether it’s once a week or twice a month, set a time for yourselves to go on a date. It sounds silly, but it’s a great way to take a break from your normal life and get back to the intimate relationship you used to have. Just the two of you, enjoying a meal at your favorite restaurant… what could be better than that? It’ll give you a chance to catch up with each other in a different setting instead of rushing through conversations on your way to work or before bed. Your schedules may be hectic, but making time for each other is extremely important. Even if it’s just a night in, snuggling on the couch, eating snacks while watching a movie.
To sum it up, you have to make the effort to reconnect in new and old ways. From going on an adventure together to keeping communication open and honest, your relationship will grow stronger each day just by following these simple steps.