My name is Michelle and I have a serious problem. My best friend of five years, Taylor, all of a sudden doesn’t seem like such a great friend. She and my boyfriend Derrick seem to have this secret connection that goes beyond friendship.
Last week, Derrick and I were having lunch at a local mall. I have been working quite a bit, as has he, and I was desperately in need of that “us” time.
Normally when he picks me up, the vibe is electric, being that we don’t get to go out on many dates. We really seem to have some chemistry, and not your standard everyday kind, the kind that can put a smile on your face despite the world around you being in ruins. Not this time though. He wasn’t being rude or anything, don’t get me wrong, but something seemed off.
I really couldn’t put my finger on it so I didn’t make a big deal out of it. It was weird, but I just let it go.
So we were seated at the mall, ordered drinks, and awkwardly ran through some basic small talk. Just as our salads arrived, so did Taylor. And the way she walked, like she wasn’t infringing on me and Derricks time together, “What are you guys doing here?” Immediately Derrick’s whole demeanor changed, his dimple miraculously appeared and the conversation seemed so not forced as it had before. I didn’t know what to say. If I could sense the change, surely he could too. That had to be why he invited Taylor to join us, and she accepted!
We’ve only dated for four months, but that is long enough to know that’s not cool. And if he doesn’t know this, Taylor does. She and I have had many conversations about Derrick. He was my first serious boyfriend in years, and she knows that.
As much as I hate to admit it, where there’s smoke, there’s flames. What should I do? I really feel like something is going on between them. Am I wrong for being suspicious? Does it sound like my imagination is getting the best of me? Should I confront them? I could use the advice of the readers out there.
Question answered By BlackLoveAdvice.com staff writer Quentin Witt.
Before I answer, I want you to ask yourself a few questions. What has your friend and boyfriend done in the past that makes you so untrusting of them? Has he cheated on you? Has she flirted with past boyfriends of yours? If so it’s time you drop them both because neither of them has your best interest at heart.
Now if they have done none of these things. Your boyfriend has been faithful, your friend has always been trustworthy, then maybe you are being a little bit paranoid. Before confronting them, I would keep a close eye on the situation. You’re right. He shouldn’t have invited her to join your couple’s lunch date. But maybe he was just being nice. You need more evidence than that before you accuse them of secretly sleeping with each other. An accusation like that, if unfounded could damage your relationship and your friendship to the point that things would never be the same again. Monitor the situation before jumping to a conclusion, what is done in the dark will come to the light, if they have something going on you will find out in due time.
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