Let’s face it, ladies. The two worst feelings in a relationship are:
1. Being cheated on.
2. Feeling unappreciated and being taken for granted by the man you are dedicating your time, love, and affection to.
But, let’s take a step back and analyze the situation.
Men are hard to interpret, so at times it might be easy to misunderstand him just, “being a man,” and actually taking your love for granted.
To help you avoid unnecessary arguments, here are a few clear indicators that the man you are with is, in fact, taking you for granted, and it’s not just your imagination or misinterpretation that’s leaving you feeling unappreciated.
Sign #1: He doesn’t have enough time for you.
All of a sudden, no matter how much thought and attention you put into planning your next date, he simply says he does not have the time, he has other things to do, or he can’t make it. Or, even worse, he seems to make up some type of urgent problem to brush you off.
His car is messing up. His sister has an important college exam, and she needs him to come cheer for her.
No matter how silly the excuse, he’s feeding it to you.
On the other hand, when he needs you to be there for him, he expects you to drop everything and be there. No questions asked. You’re definitely being taken for granted.
Sign #2: He has lost his patience.
Or, he never had much, to begin with, either way, he’s not taking your feelings into consideration. He loses his temper fast, and you often feel as if he’s trying to make you feel bad about yourself.
This is a definite sign that you are unappreciated.
Sign #3: He’s not afraid to lose you.
I’m sorry, but I had to post this.
Cheating on your wife with someone she hired?
Tiny took a charge for this man, held him down while he was in prison, and carried three of this man’s children, and this is the thanks she gets?
Him cheating on her with a woman she hired? Smh.
If a man is willing to cheat on you after you have done so much for him, and have been nothing but loyal to him then plain and simple you are unappreciated.
He doesn’t respect you, and he’s not afraid to lose you.
When a man doesn’t appreciate you and isn’t afraid to lose you you might also notice that he doesn’t care if other guys are hitting on you or checking you out.
He doesn’t care who you are going out with, or what you are doing, no matter if it’s attending a party full of single men, or going out with some of your single friends.
He simply doesn’t care.
When it feels like your man isn’t afraid to lose you because of his actions or inaction that can leave you feeling unappreciated… And sadly… You’re probably right…
Sign #4: He thinks he’s God’s gift to women.
A man that doesn’t appreciate you will often show his true feelings with his words. He will say things like, “You’re lucky to have me” or “You will never find another man as good as me.”
Do yourself a favor, drop this egotistical loser before you actually start believing the crap that is coming out of his mouth.
Sign #5: He forgets the special events in your life.
What bigger way to leave a person feeling unappreciated than this? Whether it’s your birthday, an anniversary or an important job interview, he never seems to remember, get in touch to congratulate you or ask how it went. He has no idea what is going on in your life and always puts himself first.
This shows that you are not an important part of his life. In return, you shouldn’t make him a priority in your life because obviously, you’re just an option.
Sign #6: Favors have become expectations.
When it comes to the favors you do for him, they are no longer considered favors. They have turned into expectations and responsibilities you are obligated to perform.
At times, these “favors” make you sacrifice yourself, but he never seems to notice these sacrifices, and he continues to treat you like a replaceable component of his life.
This is one of the clearest indicators that you are being taken for granted. No one can fault you for feeling unappreciated in this type of situation.
Sign #7: He doesn’t answer your questions.
He shows full indifference to you when you ask him something; he walks away or changes the topic. When calling or texting, he never calls or text you back, claiming he was really busy, or that it completely slipped his mind.
Sign #8: You’re feeling unappreciated.
You feel used and disrespected by him most of the time, and it seems that no matter what you do, it is never good enough. He always wants more from you, and you seriously doubt if he truly cares about you. Combined with a few of the signs above you can rest assured that your heart isn’t lying to you. Your feelings of being taken for granted and unappreciated are 100% right.
If you notice a few of these warning signs, it is time to have a serious talk with your boyfriend or husband. The talk will either open his eyes and help him change, or you will have to shut the door and end the relationship. Either way, you shouldn’t allow your love to be taken for granted when there are so many men that would cherish you. No women deserves a life of feeling unappreciated by the man she loves.