Don’t you just hate it when your man leaves the toilet seat up? Or when he leaves a carton of milk in the refrigerator with only a sip in the jug?
These small, but annoying habits tend to become more noticeable as relationships reach long term status.
The good news is that no matter what quirks your boyfriend, fiancée, or husband might have, there are ways of altering those behaviors over time.
Here is an easy to follow three step action plan that will get you the results you are looking for.
Step #1: Don’t over blow the situation.
Whatever you do don’t begin to interpret these small pet peeves as your man openly disrespecting you, not loving you or not loving you enough. Very likely these bad habits are habits he’s had his entire life. They aren’t just going to magically disappear because he’s in a relationship.
Step #2: Talk about it.
Don’t let time pass by, breathing deeply to 10 and telling yourself it’s not that big of a deal.
Repressing your true feelings will only lead to a build up of anger and resentment that will eventually explode in a way that is unproductive to your relationship.
Instead, wait for the heat of the moment to pass, then discuss your grievance.
Men respond best to logical arguments so be sure to use positive energy and express your discontent in a logical way: “What if we get unexpected guests? Wouldn’t it be embarrassing for them to see our dirty socks all over the floor?”
Side Note: While it might be a little hard to admit, I’m sure that you also have a few bad habits that drive him crazy, (How long does it take you to get ready to go out again?).
Analyze your own behavior, then approach your partner about changing his behavior while asking what behaviors irritate him in return. Work at changing them together as a couple’s task. This way it seems less like you’re pointing the finger at him, and more like you’re searching for ways to mutually improve your lives together.
Step #3: Provide positive reinforcement.
Make sure you do not overdo this one, but once you see him changing the annoying things in his behavior, verbally acknowledge it, then give him a hug and kiss. This should be just enough to motivate him to continue his change for the better.
In reality, nothing and no one is perfect. There’s always trade offs, even with the people we love. I suggest practicing acceptance. When it comes to the minor bad habits and flaws of your partner, it’s best to just overlook them and focus on his good qualities.
But, on another note: If you are sick and tired of taking a dip in toilet water because he left the toilet seat up again, the tips above should work wonders for your goal of changing his bad behavior.