The Broken Man That Must Learn To Love

The Broken Man That Must Learn to Love

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When a man comes from a broken home oftentimes he must learn to love.

I myself can attest to this fact.

When I was born my father abandoned my mother, she raised me by herself until she met my stepfather. He beat her, beat me, and became addicted to crack cocaine by the time she gave birth to my younger brother.

Growing up I often thought my mother didn’t love me because she didn’t protect me from this monster, not realizing she lived in constant fear because he had stalked her, and threatened to kill her when she attempted to leave him.

When I was twelve, I met my biological father for the first time in a chance encounter…. A week later I flew head first through the windshield of his pickup truck.

It turns out the years he spent absent from my life were dedicated to partying, having more children, and alcoholism. That day, the day after Thanksgiving it was, I nearly lost my life as a result of his drunk driving.

I didn’t see my father again for the next 10 years.

I thought the world didn’t love me… Nobody loved me… And unbeknownst to me, I didn’t love myself… By the time I was 18, I was a drug dealer and making frequent trips to the county jail…

I was a broken young man. On my way to prison or a casket like many of my peers that I watched fall victim to the street life.

But, God had a plan for me…

My life took a turn on October 25th, 2004. The day I met the mother of my children…

She was the first person to show me true love.

She encouraged me to do right, to get out the streets, to focus on being a better man.

That’s when I started fighting to change myself, because of her encouragement and an internal desire to be something more than a statistic.

It wasn’t easy. She put up with a lot of crap from me, but in the end, I learned how to love a woman the way I should… To love my children the way they deserved… To love myself enough not to risk my life in the streets… And even though we decided to part ways in the end, we still remain good friends.

I say all of that to say this.

The journey to change for a man that comes from a broken home is a struggle, and to be honest, most fail in their attempts to become better men…

There’s no guarantee that he will be cured of his demons. That he will learn to appreciate you. Learn to love you the way you deserve to be loved…

But it’s possible if he tries.

It’s your decision if you will embark on this journey with him.

Thank you for reading.

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