5 Bad Habits That Can Poison Any Relationship

5 Bad Habits That Can Poison Any Relationship

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Despite wanting to have healthy and loving relationships and marriages many people inadvertently stress and even destroy their relationships by injecting them with steady doses of interpersonal poison.

Unlike blatant relationship killers like abuse, lies, or cheating, the major issue with these destructive behaviors is that they go unnoticed until the damage is done.

Here are 5 bad habits that will poison your relationship. Avoid them at all cost.

Habit #1: Complaining.

If you desire for your relationship or marriage to eventually fail in the long run, constantly complaining will seal the deal. It doesn’t even matter if the complaints aren’t directed at your man. The whining will still hinder your relationship because the constant bombardment of negative comments will inadvertently wear him down. The best cure for constant complaining is counting your blessings. Most of us have many things to be thankful for.

Habit #2: Criticizing.

Criticizing your significant other is a recipe for disaster. And when it comes to men, you run the risk of emasculating him if criticism isn’t delivered in a healthy way.

Point blank, if there’s anything worse than being an expert complainer, it’s being an avid critic. Always playing the overly critical role is a weapon that will stress your relationship to the point of no return.

Habit #3: Contradicting.

It’s amazing how often partners contradict each other, even when the difference is irrelevant or adds no value to the conversation. Do you really have to interject that you woke up at 7:30 instead of 8:00am? Or that the new restaurant you visited was on 10th and Kimball and not 8th street?

Unless you are correcting a crucial mistake, do not contradict your partner, especially not in public. Disagree privately and correct privately when you must, and let the small stuff go. Or else fall victim to the woes of needless contradiction.

Habit #4: Controlling.

Two people in a relationship are supposed to be equals. Therefore, neither partner should be overly focused on managing the other. A loving relationship is a partnership. Partnerships don’t require one person to micromanage the other. Respect is not given mutually when one person feels as though they have to control the other. Being controlling is one of the most damaging things a person can do to their relationship.

Habit #5: Always saying, “No”.

Anything reasonable that you ask someone to do should be returned with a willing “yes.” A person in a relationship with you should first and foremost never ask you to do something that they wouldn’t do themselves. It’s a courtesy. However, saying “no” or “maybe” to a reasonable request will always cause problems when there is stress readily available in the relationship. There is a such thing as renegotiating.  If a request seems unreasonable, then that is when two people must come together and turn the “no” answer into a “yes” answer by renegotiating.


Humans are creatures of habit. But these bad habits are like cancer to your otherwise happy relationship.  It is very important to identify them early and nip them in the bud before the negative effects take hold.

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