The grass is greener syndrome… I’ve been a victim of it myself, and unfortunately, most of us have been on the giving or receiving end of it at least once in life.
The old saying has been drilled into our heads for years: “The grass isn’t always greener on the other side.”
Yet and still, there are plenty of people out here that still think it is regardless of the facts. They might have it really good. They can’t see it though. That’s because they’re too busy focusing on possibilities that “appear” to be better.
This attitude is a symptom of what is called the “Grass is Greener Syndrome.”
As a Christian, I know that my faith teaches me to resist temptation and count my blessings.
For a relationship or marriage to work, men and women must definitely resist a covetous soul and a wandering eye.
It’s crucial to know that even the relationships that may appear to be very solid can have one or both people suffering from Grass is Greener Syndrome. This is not a righteous or healthy condition to have. It sets the stage for all kinds of failures. That include divorce, infidelity, and broken homes.
They say that knowing is half the battle… So here are five signs that your partner might be falling victim to this syndrome.
1. They’re always complaining about what they don’t have or talking about what others have.
Ladies and gents, it’s totally okay to want more. It’s also fine to applaud others that have reached a point in life that you’re trying to get to.
But you have to draw a line here.
Becoming better or having more takes time. You also have to have the right attitude to achieve these things.
If you’re significant other constantly downs themselves or talks about how they wish they, “had it more like so and so,” you might be in Houston because there’s definitely a problem.
2. Your significant other compares you to other people.
This one is a definite red flag. I’m not talking about them jokingly adding you up against their favorite celebrity crush or somebody they have a small chance of getting.
I’m talking about a person who will add you up against people from their past, or even somebody close to both of you.
When you sign up for commitment, you’re supposed to have already made up your mind about who you think this person is. You should be able to know in your heart and soul that you accept them as they are. If that hasn’t happened then, your relationship is skating on very thin ice.
3. Your partner seems impossible to satisfy.
Bad sign here. This type of lover always sees the glass half empty regarding everything.
You can’t love them enough, you can’t be affectionate enough, and you can never give them enough attention.
When you’re not around, this person will seek attention from others even when things are going great in your relationship.
A compulsive person like this cannot be satisfied. They may also have addictions to environments or hobbies that involve chance, such as gambling. Being unable to sustain satisfaction is a negative trait. It sets the stage for infidelity or worse.
4. He’s always flirting with other women.
This includes sending flirty messages to women on Facebook, commenting inappropriately on their pictures, and being overly friendly in public.
If your partner can’t stop flirting with other women, he’s likely suffering from GIGS.
5. The unwarranted breakup.
If he’s broken up with you before for no apparent reason, and given you an excuse like, “I love you… I’m just not in love with you…” He’s clearly suffering from Grass is Greener syndrome.
This is one of the most obvious signs. “I love you… I’m just not in love with you…” Is simply code for: “I don’t have a good reason for breaking up with you. I just want to explore and see what else is out there.”
I probably could go on and on talking about this subject. The three signs listed here can definitely give you a good start and are some of the most obvious that your partner is suffering from Grass is Greener syndrome.
But all isn’t lost; there is still hope that this person can change.
For me, it’s all about staying in The Word to fight the urge to be jealous or covetous. 2 Timothy 3:1-5 clearly warns us of the signs that are consistent with half-hearted, impossible to satisfy men:
“This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come. For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, Without natural affection, truce breakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good, traitors, heady, high-minded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God; Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away.”