Why Do We Try To Make Our Partners Jealous?

Why Do We Try To Make Our Partners Jealous?

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Written by: Janae Justice

When two people are in a relationship and problems start to come up, sometimes one of them will do something spiteful to the other in order to make them jealous.

For the scorned lover, revenge is usually the best way to return a bad deed of any kind. However, anybody’s better judgement should let them know that powerful lady called karma will always do your work for you. Why is it that making somebody jealous is the first thing people want to do when the relationship starts to derail?

Believe it or not, jealousy is something that social scientists are studying all the time.  The professionals in this field have been analyzing this mess for quite a while. Many social scientists agree that the feeling of jealousy and all its triggers is a complicated thing to dissect.

This whole thing is explained by many professionals in different ways. However, there is one thing that is the common denominator of all the different explanations about jealousy: Losing. A study by  three social scientists (Alan K. Goodboy, Sean M. Horan & Melanie Booth-Butterfield) was recently published in the Communication Quarterly.

This study was titled Intentional Jealousy: Evoking Behavior in Romantic Relationships as a Function of Received Partner Affection and Love Styles. Goodboy, Horan, and Booth-Butterfield sum up the whole losing denominator well when explaining the causes of jealousy among spouses and people in relationships.

“Jealousy is considered an emotional state that involves the threat of loss to a potential rival,” they said. Social scientists have also concluded that most of the time, people evoke jealousy on purpose. Participants in these kinds of studies have said that creating a jealousy was one of the ways they make their relationships work. How ironic!

A mental health publication called Psychology Today also summed up a few professional studies on jealousy recently. Here was their take on the cause:

Individuals who reported more frequent attempts at making partners jealous also reported lower levels of satisfaction, higher levels of uncertainty, and lower levels of perceived partner commitment. That said, when examining the unique predictive abilities of each variable, perceived level of partner commitment emerged as the only predictor of jealousy evocation.

In my opinion, people who try create a confident facade on the outside but have low self-esteem on the inside will do the damnedest things. To me, trying to create jealousy in others is just another common form of insecurity.

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