Are you struggling with a cheating man and wondering how to deal with him?
Should you stay?
Should you go?
Is “once a cheater always a cheater,” true?
Dealing with infidelity can be devastating, especially if you loved your spouse and have given them all you have. However, reality is that when cheating happens in a relationship it becomes nearly impossible to trust the person in the future.
While many people would support you giving a cheating man a second chance, there are plenty reasons that you shouldn’t.
Let’s start with this one…
1. The relationship will never be the same again.
As I stated earlier, cheating erodes the trust and the confidence that you had in your man and the relationship in general.
In many cases that trust and confidence can never be 100% regained.
The act of cheating turns things upside down and no matter how hard you try to forget what happened things will never get back to normal.
Broken trust is like a broken mirror. You can glue the pieces back together, but you will always see the cracks.
Rebuilding a relationship after infidelity is no doubt an uphill battle.
2. It helps you maintain your self-respect.
Staying or not staying with a cheating spouse is your personal decision and no one should judge you for it. However, the question of self-respect cannot be wished away and if you decide to take him back, be ready to face ridicule, in many cases even from the man that you’ve forgiven.
It is hard to respect yourself if you stay with a spouse that clearly does not respect and value you.
3. Once a cheater always a cheater is true… For men…
I’ve never met a man that only cheated once. For the most part, when a man cheats and he is forgiven he cheats again.
This doesn’t hold true for women. A woman can cheat once and never do it again.
Because men and women cheat for different reasons.
Women tend to cheat because they were lacking emotional support in the relationship. If a woman doesn’t feel loved, appreciated, important, and wanted she will go elsewhere to get those needs met.
These needs can easily be met by her spouse if he decides to put forth the effort in the relationship.
If her man decides to step his game up she will never cheat again.
Men on the other hand, cheat for a number of reasons that all boil down to immaturity and sexual arousal: Opportunity, the thrill of the chase, compulsive personality, sex addiction.
No matter how hard a woman tries she can’t bring a boy with a wandering eye into manhood!
Don’t even try it ladies. That man will cheat again and again and again until his dick stops working lol…
Most cheating men never change.
4. You deserve better.
If you really value yourself, then you will appreciate when I tell you that you do not deserve to be cheated on.
You should be in a relationship with a man that appreciates and respects what you bring to the table.
Letting him go isn’t the end of the world, it’s the beginning of you finding the man that you truly deserve.
5. By staying you are risking your health.
When it comes to sex, whoever he’s sleeping with behind your back you are essentially sleeping with too. And as we all know there are STD’s that you can never get rid of.
As I stated earlier he will likely cheat again… However this time through experience he will be better at hiding his infidelity. Before you find out it might be too late.
Don’t risk your health chasing a cheating man. It’s not worth it.
6. It’ll save you stress.
As mentioned earlier, cheating destroys trust and this will no doubt lead to unnecessary stress.
You will at times wonder what he’s doing when he’s gone, who he’s with, is he telling the truth… A relationship without trust can wreak havoc on your mental health.
Don’t torture yourself playing detective and trying to babysit a grownup.
Don’t waste your time playing mind games with a cheating man. Life is way too short for that.
In the end, he’s likely going to betray your trust again, and it’s better to just rid yourself of the problem sooner than later before things get even more complicated.
Life goes on, and it only gets better when you can 100% trust the person you plan on spending it with.