5 Lessons You Learn When You Finally Leave a Relationship That God Didn't Intend for You

5 Lessons You Learn When You Finally Leave a Relationship That God Didn’t Intend for You

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Being the one to take the first step when it comes to leaving a bad relationship is not an easy thing to do.

It requires courage, a plan, and a great deal of faith in God.

Now y’all know I love me some scripture. What I love about letting The Word guide you when you’re learning life’s lessons is that it works the best for people who are far from perfect!

Fact: Imperfect people are at some point or another bound to make a less than perfect decision when it comes choosing a mate.

Reality: When you finally learn for better or worse that you’ve made the wrong decision, moving on is always the right thing to do.

Here are five lessons you learn when you finally leave a relationship that God didn’t intend for you.

1. You should never regret a split with a person who is not equally yoked. Give your indifference to the Lord.

“Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.” -2 Corinthians 5:17

There will be old and new shifts going on in your life until you’re called away. When sin enters a relationship between two who are not united in spirit, the stage is set for a path that is lost.

2. You should never date someone who doubts The Lord.

“But let him ask in faith, with no doubting, for the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea that is driven and tossed by the wind. For that person must not suppose that he will receive anything from the Lord; he is a double-minded man, unstable in all his ways.” -James 1:6-8

I told one of my former colleagues here at, “Honey, if he doubts the power of God how can he ever have faith in you?”

3. Infidelity is ungodly and never rooted in love.

“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, and faithfulness.” -Galatians 5:22

Check that last keyword: Faithfulness. Real love never has been and never will be based on lies and deceit. Our Lord will never lie to us and neither should our mate.

4. That you can never be with a person that doesn’t understand why you treasure your relationship with God above all else.

“For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.” -Matthew 6:21

This is one of my favorite scriptures. It’s good old-fashioned simple logic from the Lord that teaches us to value what is truly in our hearts. When a person can’t treasure your relationship with God, or understand what is so important about it, it’s time to let them go.

5. That no matter how much you’re going through the lord will never abandon you.

“It is the Lord who goes before you. He will be with you; he will not leave you or forsake you. Do not fear or be dismayed.” -Deuteronomy 31:8

Yes! Yes! Yes! Oftentimes, it is in our darkest hour that we realize that God will never leave us.

No matter how bad the relationship was, or how hopeless things looked, once you leave the relationship you quickly realize that God was with you guiding your steps the entire time.


As I always tell our readers here my faith is what guides me. As in all things, the Bible is a great book to read when you are trying to make sense of the lessons we learn in lost love.

The Lord will never lead you astray.

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