Confession: I am a white man who thinks that black women are extremely attractive. Guilty as charged.
Some of my best female friends are black (I hope you read this Jackie!) and the sad truth is that many of them find flaws in their true beauty.
For guys like me, this is completely insane! For them on the other hand, this is their everyday struggle.
I’m often stunned by this. I have met insanely beautiful black women who easily turn every man’s head but who thought of themselves as unattractive and sometimes even as ugly.
I really don’t understand it.
Maybe it’s a mixture of social conditioning from the old days (which is my biggest suspicion) or maybe it’s the often negative portrayal of black beauty in the media, (another of my suspicions.)
And while it is definitely important to find the source of why so many attractive black women find themselves unattractive, I want to do something else with this article.
I want to help any of the beautiful black women that read this site to overcome the negative feelings they may have towards themselves. I want to help them to look in the mirror, to smile and to say “I am a attractive woman.”
But before I get my first hate comment because I am a white guy who is talking about the beauty of black women I want to make one thing very clear. None of the following aspects are meant in a racist way. They are meant in an appreciative way, and I hope you are open-minded enough to understand them in the way they are meant.
What Makes Black Women Physically Attractive.
Even though a lot of black women don’t believe in their own attractiveness, they are blessed with some physical features that can drive men crazy.
Ladies, you are definitely not inferior to any other race when it comes to your ability to cast a spell over men. There are a couple of things about you that are irresistible.
Your natural curly hair.
I am originally from Germany, and where I come from, there are not many black women. That was the main reason why I was so shocked when I saw a black girl at my university in London with two different hairstyles on two separate days.
Monday she had long and straight hair and Tuesday her hair was short and curly. I was confused. When she then told me that many black girls wear weaves, I was even more confused. Call me naïve, but I really didn’t know what that was lol.
And to be honest, I didn’t understand it. I then told her that she doesn’t need a wig because her natural curly hair looks really beautiful.
Well, after she explained to me that a weave and a wig are two totally different things, she said that I was the first person who ever told her that her natural hair was beautiful.
I’m still a bit shocked by that.
Your sensual lips.
Even though I am a white guy, I have very big lips. If you don’t, believe me, you can ask my ex-girlfriend. She told me that she was scared of them when I tried to kiss her for the very first time.
As a man with big lips, I don’t want to kiss a girl who has no lips at all. Sorry, but it’s true. When I kissed a black woman for the very first time I was in heaven. Oh man, that kiss was passionate, and her lips were so soft. It was an incredible experience.
That was the day when I fell in love with the lips of black women.
Your feminine curves.
Most black women have amazing bodies, and they shouldn’t be ashamed of them. I actually met one black woman who constantly thought about ways that she could hide her curves to appear thinner. She only shopped for pants that didn’t emphasize her hips, even though emphasizing her hips would have been the smarter choice in my opinion.
It is not a secret that men are attracted to women with female curves. Being attracted to female curves is in our DNA and there is nothing we can do about it.
So why on earth would you want to hide the curves that make you even more attractive? Sorry, but it doesn’t make any sense.
Your dark skin.
As the naïve German guy who has been raised in a country without the racial issues that you can find in the United States or in other parts of the world, I always thought that black women were proud of their dark skin.
I really thought that until I met one African American girl who told me about her own psychological issues. She then showed me the following movie:
I was shocked. I was really, really shocked.
I couldn’t believe that so many dark-skinned girls had such deep-rooted issues because of the color of their skin. I hope that it helps when I tell you that your dark skin is beautiful and that there are a lot of men who feel the same way.
What Makes Black Women Emotionally Attractive.
Now I talked about the physical qualities that make black women so irresistible, but as we all know, a woman consists of more than her body. There is a soul, and a heart underneath that beautiful body and this soul and heart should also be appreciated.
When I think about the black girls who I am proud to call my friends and the black girls I dated, I can spontaneously think of three characteristics that fascinated me about them.
I know that some of the characteristics that I am going to mention now are seen as weaknesses or as negatively-biased stereotypes, but that’s just how society thinks. I think that they are very attractive.
Their hearty laugh.
There are a lot of YouTube videos that make fun of how black women laugh because it apparently is loud and uncontrolled to some people. I even heard some people saying that laughing this way is uncivilized and rude.
Are you serious?
Yes, the way many black women laugh is different than the way white girls laugh, but I don’t see this in a negative way. They laugh wholeheartedly and are not ashamed to show their emotions, even if some people might consider this as weird.
I remember one date with a black girl where I made a joke, and she laughed for almost five minutes straight. The table next to us was staring as if we were two aliens from Mars, but she had the time of her life and didn’t care what anyone thought.
The confidence and the joy that her laugh expressed made her even more attractive to me.
Their straightforward attitude.
As a man who has traveled around the world I know how different people behave and talk depending on the culture they have been raised in. While a lot of Asian girls are quite shy and reserved, I can’t deny that a lot of black women act the opposite way.
Please correct me if I’m wrong, but most black girls I know are very straightforward, don’t beat around the bush and tell you exactly what they think. While this can be a bit intimidating when you are not used to it, it can also be quite liberating to date a woman who is so honest and direct.
Their natural expression of who they are.
While all the different aspects that I shared with you in this article contribute to the attractiveness of black women, there is one characteristic that defines whether or not a black woman I talk to is attractive to me.
The one characteristic that a black woman absolutely has to have to be called an attractive woman in my book is the ability to be at peace with the natural expression of who she is.
No matter if it is your laugh, your direct attitude or your feminine curves…don’t hide who you are.
There are already too many black women who allow their insecurities and the racist thoughts of others to suppress their natural expression of who they are.
Don’t be one of them. Be proud of who you are. You are beautiful.