Hey, what’s up ladies. I haven’t posted to BlackLoveAdvice.com in a minute. After completing my education and landing the job of being our new digital strategist I’ve been swamped with task and projects to help improve the site.
But the other day while sitting at my desk something came to my mind that I had to share with you all.
There are only 3 types of relationships in this world.
Yes, only 3, and every relationship in your life will fall into one of these 3 categories… But the alarming thing is that ONLY ONE of these types of relationships can lead to true love and truly stand the test of time. In fact, I believe that identifying which of these 3 categories your relationship falls into is the first step to finding true love.
This is a life changing idea that will open eyes and change many of our reader’s lives.
You don’t want to miss this.
So without further ado, here are the 3 types of relationships, along with a brief explanation of how they form and play out in the real world…
1. The Utility Relationship:
This relationship might look loving in the beginning… But deep down it’s solely based off of need.
Think of the couple that stays together to pay bills and raise their children despite hating each other. Or the man or woman that dates a person they find unattractive because they need money or a place to stay. Or the woman that seeks out rich men so she can get pregnant and get that child support and divorce court pay off.
Utility relationships usually end at some point. Because as time passes, people’s needs change and when those needs change they no longer have a need for the person they needed to make ends meet.
2. The Pleasure Relationship:
This is a relationship that’s entire foundation is based off of fun and external stimulation.
Think of the party friends you hung out with in your late teens and early 20’s. Or the man that you put up with his bullshit for wayyyy too long because the sex was good.
The pleasure relationship usually ends at some point… Because a person begins to want more out of life, and the things they find to be pleasurable changes with time and age. And when what you find pleasurable changes… You quickly realize that you don’t have much in common with your pleasure relationship partners and you begin to grow apart.
3. The Pure Relationship:
This relationship is pure to the core. It’s based off of deep connection and understanding. This is the relationship that leads to true love.
The pure relationship is not based off of outside stimuli like the pleasure or utility relationship. The pure relationship is based off of two people that connect on a mental and intellectual level. They want to see each other succeed and are interested in being a part of and watching the others journey.
It doesn’t matter if they are having sex, hitting clubs, popping bottles, splitting bills. Mentally they just click and don’t need any outside stimuli to make the relationship worthwhile. Any pleasurable outside stimuli is a plus and not the basis of the relationship.
The pure relationship has no end. When two people connect on that level, they have found something of immense value that has meaning… However, it can be hard to find someone that you click with on such a deep level. Which makes the Pure Relationship very rare and hard to find.
Now here’s the reality…
You have to classify your relationships and friendships, so you don’t make life altering mistakes.
So many people have unknowingly invited chaos in their lives because they married, shacked up with, or had children by people they were in relationships with that were based off of PLEASURE or UTILITY.
The outcome is rarely ever a good one.
So stay patient. Don’t make life altering decisions with temporary people. And when you do get married, settle down, have more kids, or whatever your relationship goals are… Make sure the relationship is PURE.