Today, 74% of adults are active on at least one social media site, and 52% engage on two social sites.
Now don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing wrong with social media. But for most people, the experience is quite different from when you’re single vs when you’re in a relationship.
There are a few downsides as I’m sure you already know. However, social media doesn’t have to cause friction in your relationship and for many couples it doesn’t.
Here are a few destructive habits you will want to avoid.
Giving too much attention to people online.
Behaving online has a lot of parallels to offline behavior. For example, you’re more likely to have more contact with your good friends both on and offline. Likewise, as far as the opposite sex, it’s likely you’ll have the most contact with those of interest.
If you’re in a relationship, be careful as to how much attention you give to the people that make passes at you online. Just as with offline, you wouldn’t want to appear as if you’re flirting or giving special treatment to someone other than your spouse.
Spending too much time online.
If you’re spending time online that means it’s time not spent on other things in your life such as a relationship. Those who spend substantial time online tend to neglect real life and healthy hobbies.
So it’s best if you monitor and limit the amount of time you spend online each day. You can use an app like Rescue Time to automatically track how much time each day you spend using social media apps on your phone. If you’re not sure if you’re spending too much time on social media this app will make it pretty clear if you are or aren’t.
At the end of the day, it’s 100% necessary to take time to unplug and be with the people in your life who are special.
Excessively showing off your relationship on social media.
Social sites, such as Facebook, present the option to tell others of your relationship status. So it’s perfectly normal to update your status to ‘in a relationship.’ You’re happy about being in love and want to share the news.
However, if you’re one of those people who incessantly upload pictures of you hugging, kissing, and more with your current boyfriend or girlfriend, it’s overkill.
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Planting seeds of doubt.
Akin to giving people too much attention, being extra friendly with a few could lead your partner to believe that you’re interested in another or you’re being unfaithful. In some cases, it could totally be one-sided, yet depending on the circumstance, an obsessed ex or conniving acquaintance could make it seem like you or your partner are inviting a certain brand of attention.
You shouldn’t have to be on alert as a social media user, but those who are naive regarding how things are perceived by onlookers may silently kill their relationship.
Social media has caused a rift in far too many otherwise healthy relationships. With this new form of technology and communication we must also learn how to successfully navigate and integrate our relationships.
It’s not as easy as it sounds… But it’s also not that hard either…
About the Author
Angela Fason works as a couples mentor and has seen how new technology is making it harder to make a relationship work. She shares her thoughts and tips on keeping the romance alive and breakups at bay in her must-read articles.