I know most men have probably been accused of creeping with someone at work.
Most of those accusations are probably unfounded, but I have a real reason for concern.
Lately, my husband has become so attached to his work that I think there’s more to it than what he says. He stays late almost every day, gets random messages from his partner at work that somehow make him laugh, and the other day he told me he went out for coffee with a female co-worker to discuss an assignment.
Now, I have met this girl, she’s okay looking. What irks me the most is the way I saw her eyeing my husband. The look in her eyes spelled trouble like she sees him as more than just her co-worker.
Another thing that concerns me is that she’s single and about ten years younger than him.
She’s the 21-year-old intern that he’s been assigned to mentor. She’s been over to our home when I’m not there, just to “drop off paperwork.” I’ve even been woken up by her in the middle of the night ringing the doorbell looking for my husband because she had “a work emergency.”
My husband is an accountant, and I have no idea what emergency would require him to work at midnight. I don’t know how to confront him, because when I ask he says she is just a friend and colleague.
I can’t forbid them from seeing each other again, they work together! What should I do?
Question answered by BlackLoveAdvice.com writer Quentin Witt.
Aw hell nah to the nah nah nah! I’m gonna keep it all the way 100 with you. As a man, it sounds to me like he’s creepin with her. But at the very least the relationship is inappropriate. Knocking on your door at midnight? At your house when you’re not there? Helllllll nooooo. As a man, he should have shut that down immediately. That’s disrespectful to you and y’all relationship for some woman that isn’t related to either of y’all ringing your doorbell at 12 o’clock at night. My own family bet not come to my house without calling first Lmao.
I think you need to voice your concerns to him. You saw the way she was looking at him and your intuition is telling you that something is off.
Let him know that all them late night calls, her chilling in your house while you’re not there, and ringing your doorbell whenever she feels like it is making you uncomfortable. DEAD THAT. A real man won’t have an issue with setting that boundary for the woman he loves.
If he can’t do that, then this is likely going to be a lingering issue that causes long-term friction in your relationship. He needs to get this ish together and shut that down.
Now I’m going to pass it to our readers. Ladies, what y’all think? Is he cheating? Should she confront him or is she being overly suspicious? Let us know!