Is He Flirting With Me? Here Are 12 Signs That He Definitely Is!

Is He Flirting With Me? Here Are 12 Signs That He Definitely Is!

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Sometimes, when a man catches your eye, and you begin to interact, it can be difficult to tell if he’s flirting or just being friendly and polite.

And as we all know, trying to figure out the difference can drive you crazy. 😂

Fortunately, it’s not that hard to tell if you know the subtle identifiers a man is likely to display when he’s flirting.

The next time you ask yourself “Is he flirting with me?” Look out for these things. If you notice them, then your new guy friend… Definitely wants to be more than friends

 1. He gave you a thoughtful gift.

A guy is likely flirting with you if he goes out of his way to give you a personalized gift.

Things like a coffee mug with one of your favorite quotes or interest on it.

A small collector’s item like a key chain with something on it that you’re into, or he could go all 2002 on you and make you a mix CD. 😂

Any of these things are a good sign that he’s seriously interested.

Going to these lengths sends the message that he’s thinking about you. He has spent some time thinking about what makes you happy, and he wants to impress you.

Your mystery man might try to give you the gift with some kind of pretext, like telling you that he stumbled across the item or that someone gave it to him to give to you. But make no mistake that men don’t give gifts to women they don’t like…especially personalized gifts.

If you’re asking yourself “Is he flirting with me?” And he gives you a personalized gift, he definitely is.

2. Or he gives you a gift that is cliche.

You know the stereotype of a man sending you a drink at a bar? It’s still true.

Some men try to flirt, but they’re not good at it. A pick-up line or the old buying-you-a-drink trick might seem so overdone that it makes you want to cut and run.

However, a sweet guy might not know any better, and it might be an honest attempt to find his flirtatious side.

3. His conversation sounds rehearsed.

Listening to what he says and how he says it can be critical when it comes to figuring out his true intentions.

Try to notice if there is any sign that he has practiced his conversation beforehand.

If he has a clever first line, he might have practiced it to himself before trying it on you. And clearly, if he’s thought through what he’s going to say to you, that means he’s thinking about you.

Obvious planning ahead is a sign that he’s not only looking forward to interacting with you but that he also wants your conversation to go well.

4. He mentions that he’s single.

If a man is trying to flirt, he wants you to know that he’s available.

If he casually mentions that he doesn’t have a girlfriend or that he doesn’t have plans for the weekend, he’s announcing to you that he’s on the market.

If you’re interested, casually mention that you’re available, too.

5. He makes you laugh… Or at least he tries to lol.

Is He Flirting With Me? Here Are 12 Signs That He Definitely Is!

Whether you’re about to begin a relationship or you’ve been in a relationship for a long time, a good man just wants to make you happy.

If you find that your new guy friend is telling jokes left and right, it’s likely a sign that he wants to impress you.

Humor is a way that many men try to lighten the mood and show you that they’re a catch.

6. He’s always willing to lend a helping hand.

A man that has a romantic interest in you wants you to know that he’s reliable.

If he offers to help repair your car or an appliance at your home, he’s likely trying to lend a helping hand in a flirtatious way.

Whereas a man that isn’t interested might not bother to lift a finger.

If you notice he’s going out of his way to help more than usual, it’s a good sign that he’s digging you.

7. He’s always around you.

A guy that’s trying to flirt wants to find a good opportunity. He can’t flirt with you if he’s not around you.

If he seems to end up where you are, that’s a good sign. When you go out, he might end up with your group or at your table. And at the office, he always seems to pop up for conversation.

When a man is interested, he shows his interest by trying to be near you. If you find that he’s around more than usual, or he keeps popping up in familiar places, that’s a good sign that he’s interested in more than just school, work or the usual chit chat.

Combined with a few of the other signs on this list there is no doubt that he’s flirting.

8. He asks personal questions.

When a man likes you, he wants to find out all that he can about you. He wants to get you talking, and he wants to get you to open up.

One great way to do that is to ask questions.

When a guy isn’t interested at all, he keeps the conversation brief. He doesn’t ask about your work, your school or your family because he doesn’t care.

But if you notice that he steers the conversation to any of these personal topics, your individual interests, or how you’re feeling in general, it’s a good sign that he’s trying to flirt with you.

9. You get special treatment.

Does your man-of-interest do things differently around you?

Does he go out of his way to make sure that you have a glass of water, something to write with if you need it, or the next round of drinks on hand? That’s a great sign that he’s trying to let you know he’s interested.

When a man isn’t that into you, he might not notice if you need something.

If he saves the best for you and pays attention to your needs, it’s a good sign he’s trying to hint to you that he’s interested.

10. His body language speaks volumes.

Men can do a lot of speaking without actually speaking at all. If he’s trying to flirt, he will lean in when he talks to you. If his arms are open and he’s directly facing you, it’s a good sign he wants you close to him.

He will also stand within your personal space often, and find reasons to make body contact during conversation. Things like touching your hand, arm, or leg while you’re talking.

11. He’s a show off.

This behavior might come across as annoying or obnoxious, but he might have good intentions.

Is he telling you all about his highschool glory days? Is he bragging about a promotion at work?

If you happen to find his bank account information open in a browser on his desk, he might have left it behind for you to find (okay that’s a bit too far 😂😂😂)

But any attempt to impress you is a sure sign that he’s flirting.

12. He remembers what he learns about you.

When you talk to your new guy friend, does he remember what you’ve told him the next time you speak?

An interested man doesn’t forget.

If you find that your mystery man has excellent recall, it’s a good sign that he finds you memorable, and combined with a few of the other signs on this list he’s definitely flirting.


A flirtatious man tends to try to be lighthearted and fun. He wants to help you, and he wants to cheer you up if you’re having a bad day.

If you notice that a man treats you special, finds ways to be around you and tries to impress you, it’s a good sign that he is flirting. If you’re interested, be sure to smile and show appreciation for the little things that he does to try to get your attention.

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