Why Men Lose Interest: A 7 Point Analysis From a Man That Has Played the Field

Why Men Lose Interest: A 7 Point Analysis From a Man That Has Played the Field

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Romantic dates, deep conversations, and exciting chemistry… Everything is going perfectly… Or is it?

Just when you thought all was right, he pulls away, wants space, or outright stops answering your phone calls.

Leaving you with a confused stare like really?!? 😕

Ladies, from a man that has played the field I can tell you that there are many reasons why men lose interest.

Today I’m going to break down the top 7 reasons, and yes, I’m guilty of a few of them.

Along with the reasons why men unexpectedly lose interest, I’m going to break down how you can avoid such incidences in the future.

Let’s start here…

1. Because you showed too much interest too fast.

An excessive amount of interest early in the relationship is a red flag for both men and women.

If at the beginning of a relationship you show a strong interest to move things to the next level as quickly as possible he’ll probably get freaked out.

It might be because he hasn’t thought about the future yet, he’s not ready to commit, he wants to take things slowly or thinks your behavior is borderline crazy.

Is he wrong for that? No, because we aren’t entitled to control someone else’s thoughts and expectations.

Ladies, calm down and go with the flow. Don’t rush too fast to find out what the next stage of the relationship has in store.

2. Because you don’t let him talk.

Some people might say that this is a petty reason to lose interest. But, nobody likes to be dominated in conversation.

In fact, over 60% of the men I interviewed for my book Secrets Revealed: The Uncut Truth That Will Change Your Love Life Forever stated that they have lost interest in a woman because their conversations weren’t mutual.

The art of conversation revolves around honesty, balance, and subtle humor.

And without those three things, especially balance, he’s probably going to lose interest.

Being over-talked is unattractive to both men and women.

Honestly, I had a problem with this for years. I talked wayyyy too damn much. 😂😂😂

It was as if conversation was a competition and I refused to lose lol.

To help myself change that habit, I read this book and others to help strengthen my conversational skills.

3. You expect too much from him too early in the relationship.

Why Men Lose Interest: A 7 Point Analysis From a Man That Has Played the Field

There’s an old saying that goes: “Expectation is the root of all heartache.”

To a certain extent that’s true.

While expectations come naturally to everyone, expecting too much too soon will likely push him away.

Nobody wants to enter a relationship and feel like they’re under a microscope, obligated to take care of responsibilities that aren’t theirs or feel like their being scrutinized to act, look, and conduct themselves a certain way.

People want to be themselves and gradually share the burdens of their partner’s responsibilities.

Keep your expectations to a minimum and never pressure a man to live up to your standards.

Either he does, or he doesn’t.

That’s how you’ll build a lasting relationship with someone that you are truly compatible with.

4. Because you’re carrying baggage from past relationships.

Look, we are all carrying baggage from our past relationships in one way or another, so I’m not blaming you.

But no relationship can flourish if you don’t let go of your demons and invest time and energy in the right relationship.

Excessively talking about your ex, sudden changes of mood, unwillingness to communicate, and fear of intimacy will drive almost any man away.

Heck, it drives women away too! Take my advice and stay away from dating until you are 100% sure that you are ready to start dating again.

Or else, you might unintentionally add more stress to your life.

5. HE’S carrying baggage from past relationships.

As stated above we are all carrying baggage from past relationships in one way or another.

Unfortunately, most men don’t realize that they’re carrying this baggage.

Which leads them to run from intimacy, reject real love, and play mind games with women that had nothing but good intentions.

I wrote about this in my article “The Broken Man That Must Learn to Love.

Great read, you should check it out.

6. Because he’s a player and he’s done running his game.

Why Men Lose Interest: A 7 Point Analysis From a Man That Has Played the Field

Let’s be real. Not all the reasons why men lose interest are innocent. In reality, some men are dogs, and that’s just how they operate.

They take pride in manipulating, conquering, and playing games with women’s hearts.

I would advise all women to be on the lookout for these early warning signs that he’s a player.

You’ll save yourself a lot of drama and heartbreaks.

7. Because he found a better deal.

A sad fact of life is that some people are users, abusers, manipulators, and opportunist.

Simply put, some men are just naturally born a$$h#les.

Make no mistake about it, you deserve better.

Never chase a man who’s only goal is to get what he can get out of the relationship while toying with your heart in the process.

Find a man that has integrity and is not afraid to commit.


These are some of the reasons why men lose interest, but there are many more.

If you want to know what really goes on in the minds of men check out my book “Secrets Revealed.

I interviewed over 100 black men from different professions and walks of life.

Those interviews uncovered some pretty interesting data and intriguing quotes.

Check it out now.

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