You can not change someone, we all have tried and failed miserably. Trying to change a person’s flaws or personality will leave you exhausted and drained.
So you’re sitting at home on the couch, watching TV, and your life is passing you by, you keep wondering “will this man ever change?” ‘Maybe he’ll change next year” “Maybe he’ll change after my tax refund.”
Go talk to somebody, they’re out to help you. You spend all day pondering anyhow, why don’t you get up and leave, that’s going to help you in your future. All you have to do is grab your purse and go. Why are you spending all day wondering if your man will change?
THE SAD TRUTH IS, THE MAN IS NEVER GOING TO CHANGE AND HERE ARE 5 RED FLAGS OF A STAGNANT SPOUSE.
1. BACK AND FORTH
Back, Back, forth and forth. We have an emotional roller coaster on our hands! When we continue to go back and forth with an individual, someone usually ends up getting hurt. He’s not changing if he keeps coming back to you as the same person. After each break, you believe that he’s gotten his act together, so you give him another chance, but he’s the same person yet again. What you see is usually what you get. The only sign of a man changing is changed behavior.
Does your man get defensive when you bring up an issue to him? If your man refuses to see your the issue or views your opinion as conflict in the relationship, he’s never going to change! Never!
How can you not see where I’m coming from and we’re in a relationship together? The defensive rebuttal of a man is an action to hide his wrongdoings and to protect himself while leaving you high and dry with the issue at hand. He outright refuses to see your side of anything!
He’ll most likely BLAME you for the faults, and never take the time to self-reflect. A man playing the blame game is a dangerous, and unchanging man.
3. DISAPPEARING ACTS
So all of a sudden you’re dating a magician. This man pulls disappearing acts out of nowhere and once again leaving you high and dry. This is a huge RED flag! Where did this man go? Now, your man might come back to you with an excuse like “I just needed time to myself, to get my mind right.”
That’s nothing but a lie, you are his woman, his shoulder to lean on, you are supposed to help him get his mind right. For all you know this man was on vacation with another woman sipping coconut juice out of her crevices. Disappearing acts are never honored, “Poof be gone” him for GOOD!
4. NO CONSEQUENCES
As a woman, you have to let him know that you are not the one! Give out consequences to your partner, if he does act up. If not you are in a whirl of trouble girlfriend. He will continue to move like he does if he is not reprimanded, he figures “Oh, she’ll take me back with open arms AGAIN.”
So ladies put him on punishment if he decides to get out of hand. Make him wait for the goodies for at least 30 days, or cook him nothing but ramen noodles and imagination. You gon’ learn today! Put him on punishment and release him on your terms only!
5. HE’S A LIAR
Why you always lying?
This should’ve been NUMBER ONE. You never know where you stand with a liar, they create ambiguity and a feeling of unease.
Trusting a liar is like trusting Pebbles with TLC’s contract or trusting Diddy to not be dancing all in his protege’s music videos.
To piggy back off of number 2, a liar usually is defensive and tries to blame you for lying. We know what a thief will do, we know what a murderer will do, but we never know what a liar is up to. A man that lies without apologizing and changing his behavior is an unchanging man. What were some of the craziest lies a man has ever told you?
Every woman has fallen victim to a man that promised he was going to get his act together and change for the relationship. “Just give me one more chance baby,” unfortunately this isn’t 1995, and Biggie can’t save him.
Ladies don’t ignore the warning signs of an unchanging man. Pondering and wondering if your man will ever change is the first clue! A man that’s for you will never have your mind speculating. So the next time you’re sitting at home wracking your brain, just realize he’s never going to change.
GRAB YOUR PURSE AND GO.
Some people never change.
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